Wasn't a CF forum member but would of been.. My son
06-02-2008, 05:25 PM
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06-07-2008, 10:01 AM
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I lost a 1 day old only Son also, many, many years ago. His memory will be with you forever. I'm very sorry you and family had to experience this! Time will make it a bit easier to accept!
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06-17-2008, 01:52 PM
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Sorry to hear that. After Travis passed I kinda felt like I was the only person that this happens to but sad to say as time has passed I hear of so much of people losing children. Last year a friend of mine lost his 16 year old daughter. I felt so bad for him. I guess i would think it would have to be worse to lose a child that has been part of the family for that many years. I have an 11 year old daughter and I don't know what I would do if something happened to her.
06-18-2008, 09:45 AM
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Words cannot console the loss of a child.
06-20-2008, 01:09 AM
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Parents should not bury their children. I'm sorry for your loss and I can say that I can truly relate. My only daughter was 19 when met with a senseless tragedy. Be strong!
06-30-2008, 05:03 PM
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07-07-2008, 07:25 AM
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His name is Travis Vanderflught. He didn't make it to see all the joy of corvettes and this sweet forum but I know if he was alive today he would be starting to see the corvette life. When he was one month old he had an intestine tear and start to leak. The done surgery but nothing could be done. It was very hard to set around for a day waiting for him to pass. When he did of all days it had to be on mother's day. He was my only son. I have a daughter that is great but she is in to all the girl stuff like she sould be. I was just hoping to have a son to do the things that my dad and I used to do. I really miss him but we all know this is something we all have to deal with at one point. Not sure what else to say but thanks for reading.
07-13-2008, 03:05 PM
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Sorry to hear that. After Travis passed I kinda felt like I was the only person that this happens to but sad to say as time has passed I hear of so much of people losing children. Last year a friend of mine lost his 16 year old daughter. I felt so bad for him. I guess i would think it would have to be worse to lose a child that has been part of the family for that many years. I have an 11 year old daughter and I don't know what I would do if something happened to her.
My heart goes out to you and your family. Travis may have been here a very short time, but he is loved forever.
07-13-2008, 03:35 PM
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I sympathize with you...
My wife and I have been married since March 1998 - she wanted to bear and raise children long before we met. In our first two years of marriage, she miscarried twice, both in the first trimester. The third child she carried to full term but it was born with nonfunctioning lungs. Despite all of the efforts of the Hospital's staff, she didn't make it for more than a few minutes out of the womb. This happened despite all the prenatal care that was given - she went to the OB/GYN every two weeks to have our child checked on. Numberous ultrasounds, specialized diet and other things were done to guarentee the child's protection.
This happened in 2002 - to this day my wife blames herself when there is nobody to blame; she won't even try to have another child. It's a hard, bitter pill to swallow that sometimes, some things aren't meant to be. Unfortunately my wife has not accepted that reasoning.
Meaning well (?) some people said some of the cruelest things, like, "You can always have another child." It's almost like our baby girl wasn't worthy of love because she didn't survive in this world. We had others question why we had a funeral for her - almost like we were suppose to throw her in the trash. My wife has told me several times that when she passes away, she wants to be buried next to her daughter.
So, as of July 31, our daughter, Taarna Marie would be six years old.
So your story about Travis has hit a nerve with me. I dearly hope that your loss will get easier to accept and deal with as time marches on.
This happened in 2002 - to this day my wife blames herself when there is nobody to blame; she won't even try to have another child. It's a hard, bitter pill to swallow that sometimes, some things aren't meant to be. Unfortunately my wife has not accepted that reasoning.
Meaning well (?) some people said some of the cruelest things, like, "You can always have another child." It's almost like our baby girl wasn't worthy of love because she didn't survive in this world. We had others question why we had a funeral for her - almost like we were suppose to throw her in the trash. My wife has told me several times that when she passes away, she wants to be buried next to her daughter.
So, as of July 31, our daughter, Taarna Marie would be six years old.
So your story about Travis has hit a nerve with me. I dearly hope that your loss will get easier to accept and deal with as time marches on.
Last edited by American Raven; 07-13-2008 at 03:45 PM.