Does anyone else struggle with the Family and Corvette balance in life???
03-23-2016, 10:21 AM
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Le Mans Master
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Does anyone else struggle with the Family and Corvette balance in life???
This has been a struggle for me since my very first Corvette 15 years ago. Always something fun happening with Corvette owners yet I have a family duty that somehow takes precedence. Perfect example is my current situation. I have never been on a George and friends Rainbow run. This is a gathering I have always wanted to take part in. Well was discussing with the wife yesterday. I know my 12 year old had a baseball tournament that weekend but Sat is just seeding so I figured I would sacrifice one day of games for my own self. No problem. Well as we discussed it my wife says "Well I didn't tell you yet but Teddy has prom pictures that day as well". She tried to convince me it would be o.k. to miss this event but NO WAY. There will be another Rainbow Run there will never be another prom for my son. It always seems to be something and it gets frustrating but I make my choices as a father and have not yet regretted any of them. I just wonder if others are in the same dilemma as me. Damn I wanted to go on that run to LOL
03-23-2016, 10:44 AM
#2
Melting Slicks
You are doing the right thing Ted. There will always be more runs, but watching the kids as they are in special events is a once in a life time thing. Enjoy your kids while you can, before long they will be older, they will have moved out and you will have plenty of time for your own events.
03-23-2016, 12:05 PM
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Le Mans Master
I totally get it Teddy my twins are 6 and my princess will be 3 in April. I wasn't going to go but my wife talked me in to it but I will be coming back ASAP or a little early. don't know what time pictures are but I would bounce with you early so we can both get home. lol
03-23-2016, 01:54 PM
#6
Instructor
There is a balance that can be hard to find, personally I have found most my enjoyment comes from my wife and two girls. When I get my time, which you really just have to make time for and not feel guilty, it makes your hobbies so much more enjoyable. Unfortunately for my vette, its third in line behind the motocross and mountain bike. But that's just me, track days with the vette take up more time and $$, and I can fulfill my competitive bug cheaper and quicker the first two ways. There is nothing like a drive in the car though.
03-23-2016, 10:07 PM
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Not just you bro. I really only schedule vette stuff with the wife so we can both feel guilty about ditching the kids. Lol
And it's not just the vette , when I go dirt bike riding with the guys that's when the guilt really sets in.
I'm pretty sure that just life. I was just about to hit you up about the rainbow run
And it's not just the vette , when I go dirt bike riding with the guys that's when the guilt really sets in.
I'm pretty sure that just life. I was just about to hit you up about the rainbow run
03-24-2016, 12:11 AM
#8
Melting Slicks
Life gets in the way for everyone, been in Corvettes for 15 years as well and except for Tracking a C5, after the kid was out of college, all the rest of the stuff will just have to wait for a bit longer. Enjoy what have at the moment.
03-24-2016, 09:34 AM
#10
Instructor
I have a 22 and 17 yr old and time really does go by fast enjoy your time with them while you can because before you know it there moving out. Family is always first.
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03-24-2016, 08:50 PM
#11
Drifting
My first Vette was a 61. Next was a 66 Then I got married and spent 30 years with the family. No vettes. Kids gone...next vettes were 91,96,01, 05 and now 06.
You have a lot of time. Make the most of it and enjoy !
You have a lot of time. Make the most of it and enjoy !
03-25-2016, 11:05 PM
#12
Corvette Vs Family.............Family what's that? oh wait are you talking about the people that live in the same house as me :p
Seriously though ya it is difficult to balance sometimes!
Seriously though ya it is difficult to balance sometimes!
03-27-2016, 10:01 AM
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Le Mans Master
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What a great bunch of replies. As I expected everyone would support family. I am going to look into picture time and I might take you up on the opportunity Duman. I might take you up on it. Luke I will call you next week we will get something going. More importantly. Corvette family HAPPY EASTER.
03-27-2016, 11:12 AM
#15
Race Director
Prom pictures don't just "pop up" on the calendar. The date, photographers, locations, etc are factored into the backwards planning process well in advance of the Prom itself, which happens to come EVERY YEAR (like Christmas and your birthday), so there should be no surprise there. They may even have alternate dates for photos you are unaware of that could have been de-conflicted so you could do both events.
Good luck and I suggest you drop your events on a Calendar and "lock 'em in". If anything pops up AFTER you make plans, perhaps a hard lesson learned is what some people need these days. Remember that old saying "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine."
While I understand unforeseen emergencies, "I forgot to tell you" for something as "important" as Prom photos is just unacceptible.
Just saying. And yes, I am in the minority in this thread and I take a different stand because how the hell can you plan ANYTHING when your adult wife forgets such important events and your "Teddy" simply failed to share the happiness and details for the Prom photos day with you or if your presence is even appreciated.
ps.....I bet they don't forget their cell phones.
03-27-2016, 12:13 PM
#16
Racer
Sounds like there are a lot of corvettes in the area that need to be driven!
I am single with no children and have plenty of time to do what I want.
If you guys need someone to ( walk the dog so to speak) let me know! LOL!!!!
I am single with no children and have plenty of time to do what I want.
If you guys need someone to ( walk the dog so to speak) let me know! LOL!!!!
03-28-2016, 12:45 AM
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Sounds like you need to work on your family communication skills.
Prom pictures don't just "pop up" on the calendar. The date, photographers, locations, etc are factored into the backwards planning process well in advance of the Prom itself, which happens to come EVERY YEAR (like Christmas and your birthday), so there should be no surprise there. They may even have alternate dates for photos you are unaware of that could have been de-conflicted so you could do both events.
Good luck and I suggest you drop your events on a Calendar and "lock 'em in". If anything pops up AFTER you make plans, perhaps a hard lesson learned is what some people need these days. Remember that old saying "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine."
While I understand unforeseen emergencies, "I forgot to tell you" for something as "important" as Prom photos is just unacceptible.
Just saying. And yes, I am in the minority in this thread and I take a different stand because how the hell can you plan ANYTHING when your adult wife forgets such important events and your "Teddy" simply failed to share the happiness and details for the Prom photos day with you or if your presence is even appreciated.
ps.....I bet they don't forget their cell phones.
Prom pictures don't just "pop up" on the calendar. The date, photographers, locations, etc are factored into the backwards planning process well in advance of the Prom itself, which happens to come EVERY YEAR (like Christmas and your birthday), so there should be no surprise there. They may even have alternate dates for photos you are unaware of that could have been de-conflicted so you could do both events.
Good luck and I suggest you drop your events on a Calendar and "lock 'em in". If anything pops up AFTER you make plans, perhaps a hard lesson learned is what some people need these days. Remember that old saying "A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine."
While I understand unforeseen emergencies, "I forgot to tell you" for something as "important" as Prom photos is just unacceptible.
Just saying. And yes, I am in the minority in this thread and I take a different stand because how the hell can you plan ANYTHING when your adult wife forgets such important events and your "Teddy" simply failed to share the happiness and details for the Prom photos day with you or if your presence is even appreciated.
ps.....I bet they don't forget their cell phones.
This is a joke right?
If not you must not have kids. I forget half the sh*t I'm doing or need to do on a daily basis let alone remember all my kids stuff.
03-28-2016, 05:07 PM
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03-28-2016, 06:01 PM
#19
Le Mans Master
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LOL **** made me laugh. Spent 5 minutes to long giving a f@ck about my communication skills I give free hugs. HAHAHA
03-28-2016, 07:04 PM
#20
Safety Car
Hey Teddy
Long time no see, I have been there done that and doing it all over again with a 2 year old girl and one on the way. Plus a 16 year old son.
In the past I have made it point to have Family first and to be involved in their lives but with that said they should also be involved in yours. One of the fondest memories from my son was the times we had Father son days going out to the Corvette cruises and he still remembers these days when he was 3 years old. For the Rainbow run coming up he will be with me as my copilot and next year I will be bringing my little girl. and so on. Hope to see you soon bro
Long time no see, I have been there done that and doing it all over again with a 2 year old girl and one on the way. Plus a 16 year old son.
In the past I have made it point to have Family first and to be involved in their lives but with that said they should also be involved in yours. One of the fondest memories from my son was the times we had Father son days going out to the Corvette cruises and he still remembers these days when he was 3 years old. For the Rainbow run coming up he will be with me as my copilot and next year I will be bringing my little girl. and so on. Hope to see you soon bro
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