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Old 02-11-2019, 12:55 PM
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And you find out that they died in a car accident in 2012. Makes for a shitty morning...even though I donít really feel deserving to feel bad. Life is fleeting. R.I.P. Michelle.
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Sorry about your friend. You never know when your time will come, so better stay in the moment where life is taking place.
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Turn your back and life rushes past without warning. Stay in contact and surprises are limited. Sorry for your loss. Life is a journey of surprises.
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Spent years trying to re-connect with one person. Tracked down their kid and requested they forward my contact info- instead I got a boatload of Obama BS when they added my name to a bunch of mailing lists. Made contact a second time and the kid said "I forgot". Found another route to the person...only to find he had died only a few months before. Stupid damn kid.
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that sucks but what can you do.
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I've had more than a few of these things lately. Not so much long lost folks, but I'm not what I consider "old" (low 50s) so having friends leave this earth under the circumstances they have is quite disconcerting. 2 of my closest lifelong friends in the past 3 years, and also some classmates from HS, or others in that same age range. Does everyone find they've got a preponderance of accidental death of folks they've known?

It actually makes me take pause and reassess what I'm doing with my own life. Chasing a carrot and I'm not sure for what. I try to make time to interact with people I've run across during my life, visit and such. But as much as I try, inevitably you lose touch with folks and it's always a wake up call that life is fleeting. I'm not sure how to strike a balance for all the responsibilities, but if someone knows how, I'm all ears.

Sorry for your loss Hendrix.
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Back in October, the magic of the internet provided me unexpectedly with contact information for a former coworker from the mid '90s, Mary. I sent her an e-mail saying I still was in contact with Greg, and the three of us should get lunch. She said OK, and as a surprise, I wanted to see if I could get Duncan to join us, because he had been friends with all of us back in the day. It turns out that Duncan passed away in 2013.
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Yep, it's kind of a weird feeling. I learned a few months ago that my best friend/next door neighbor from grade school died of cancer about 4 years ago. His family moved when we were in Jr. high and although we kept in touch for a while, we lost track of each other after a year or two...
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My best friend and neighbor for 15 years moved,sad also. Good friends are hard to find, for me anyway.
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I always said....it's one date you will not be late for.....sorry about your friend
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Had just the opposite experience today. Tried to find the obit of one listed at the school as died in 2008. Turns out he's alive and well in NC.
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A year or so ago, a former retired employee died in a bicycle accident. He was on his to work a soup kitchen for the homeless.
He retired around 2010 and was a top performer with the company, number #1 three consecutive years.
I sent his obituary to Corporate, thought a few their would like to know.
Got an email back from HR asking who he was and no one else responded.
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Sorry for the loss of your friend.
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Originally Posted by K-Spaz View Post
I've had more than a few of these things lately. Not so much long lost folks, but I'm not what I consider "old" (low 50s) so having friends leave this earth under the circumstances they have is quite disconcerting. 2 of my closest lifelong friends in the past 3 years, and also some classmates from HS, or others in that same age range. Does everyone find they've got a preponderance of accidental death of folks they've known?

It actually makes me take pause and reassess what I'm doing with my own life. Chasing a carrot and I'm not sure for what. I try to make time to interact with people I've run across during my life, visit and such. But as much as I try, inevitably you lose touch with folks and it's always a wake up call that life is fleeting. I'm not sure how to strike a balance for all the responsibilities, but if someone knows how, I'm all ears.

Sorry for your loss Hendrix.
This is why you should retire as soon as possible. More time to hang with old friends and raise hell. Responsibilities just get in the way.
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Originally Posted by K-Spaz View Post
I've had more than a few of these things lately. Not so much long lost folks, but I'm not what I consider "old" (low 50s) so having friends leave this earth under the circumstances they have is quite disconcerting. 2 of my closest lifelong friends in the past 3 years, and also some classmates from HS, or others in that same age range. Does everyone find they've got a preponderance of accidental death of folks they've known?
Every quarter, I get a magazine type thing from the college I attended, and it has an "in memoriam" section where you find out who died. From when I was about 25 to 35, it seemed like someone from my class died almost every quarter, some in some pretty freaky ways. One guy was in the Air Force and died in a mid-air collision with another plane. We were wondering if we were the "cursed class", but it seemed to stop. Of course, with us all turning 55 now, I expect the frequency will increase again sooner or later.
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Damn, sorry to hear Hendrix
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I reconnected with an old neighborhood and grammar school friend several years ago. Her family moved to California back in the 70's. Through FB I found her and we reconnected. We had several nice phone conversations to catch up about what had happened over the past 40+ years.
One day she called me and informed me she had brain cancer and was undergoing treatment. One of her last calls was that she was cancer free. 6 months later the cancer returned and she was gone.
Sometimes reconnecting with an old friend is great...other times not so much.
RIP Susie..I never forget the cute blond with the pigtails.
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And you find out that they died in a car accident in 2012. Makes for a shitty morning...even though I donít really feel deserving to feel bad. Life is fleeting. R.I.P. Michelle.
My 50-year HS reunion was this past fall. I've never been to any of them and didn't plan going to this one either.

At any rate, in emailing the guy who was setting it all up, I found out that my high-school buddy, who was also my drinking buddy (up until our mid-20s when our lives went separate ways) died in 2002. Whaddya gonna do? We did some **** back in the day, went to the local drags EVERY Saturday night, never went anywhere without a cooler full of beer in the car.

I was thinking of looking up my first GF; we met in December 1967. Got engaged but never married, broke up in '70, went out again for a while in '78 (she didn't like my alcohol consumption). Haven't found her but have not been really serious about searching, cuz I still like to drink so it would probably be pointless even if I did find her.


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That sucks. Sorry for your loss
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I tracked down an old friend once... Turned out he became a drug user attic... I was wishing I did not find him... he was ready to move in,,,

2nd time I tracked down an old friend, out of work for??? keep trying to get me to hire hime to paint murals in my new garage... wish I did not find him ether..

learned my lesson... I look no more...
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