garrell.770

When I first posted this thread and told of my near fatal and to never improve health problems and the situation with my Mom and Dad, I need your thoughts and prayers and for any that do not pray just your good positive thoughts. To catch you up briefly, a week ago Monday on Dads 87th birthday my Sister carried him to a local clinic and my Wife and I stayed with Mom. As soon as the Doctor listened to his lungs and did an ekg he immediatly call fot EMT'S and sent him to the hospitol. He was in severe atrial fibrilation and his lungs were full of fluid from heart failure. This was a man that waited on Mom 24/7 and got her out of or into bed every 15 minutes, we had no idea how sick he was and focussed all our attention on her. His mind was clear and sharp as ever and all they could do for him in the hospitol was to administer dieuretics to clear up the fluid. He came home yesterday after eight days in the hospitol, he cannot walk, illucinates, in excruciating pain in his back and legs and has become vilent and threatening. We have had Mom for the eight days and you have to stay with her every minute, we now appreciate what Dad went theough and consider him hero just as he was in WW11. We are sticking by our vow to them that they would never have to go to a nursing home. My health has deteriated from the lack of rest and stress but that is secondary and all of you that sent private messages or made post with well wishes, you are all appreciated.

Garrell Paterson

garrell.770

Addendum to my thread, it appears that Dad has had a stroke and they did not address this or the pain and just suddenly dismissed him.

Garrell

avettelovertu

Praying for you and your family. God bless.

LS2NSUV

Prayer sent.

meflyfrc

Garrell,

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Roland

DBLTRGR

I've prayed for your parents and your family. That's the very best thing that can be done!

Rick

"In times of trouble, God is still at work"

Ona mission

Prayers sent!

Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved. Psalm 55:22

jrose7004

My thoughts are with you.

C5Wolfe

My prayers are with you my friend! God bless you and your family!

Choreo

I can sympathize as I went through a similar situation with my Mother about 6 years ago (I am still trying to recover physically and financially). I was somewhat prepared to face her death since she was 83 and I had lost ALL my other relatives except my brother while I was still in my teens, but all were "sudden" deaths within 24-72 hours after symptoms presented themselves. What I was not prepared for was a long drawn out 3 years in and out of hospitals and emergency rooms with my Mother. Baby-sitting costs alone were over $100,000.00 during that period since that is not covered by Medicare/Medicaid, etc. In her case, she was actually in amazing shape until they checked her into the Hospital just to run some tests for 3 days - when she was released, her back went out as a result of laying down for so long and once your back goes, that is it - she was never able to actually walk again.

Hope things get better soon!

96mogt

Prayer sent. Your a great man and son for being there for your parents. Jay

sempi

Garrell,
From experience, I can tell you, Tell your Dad, every day, That You Love Him. And treat him every day like it may be his or your last.
If he is lucid, tell him for me please, "Thank you for your Service!"

I will think positive thoughts for you all.

Stay safe

Sempi

Vetteriffic

Garrell,

Be strong and keep the faith...life is always throwing curve ***** at us but we always are grateful for the sacrifices our parents did for us and time has come for you to return it...we are with you and you are a great son to step up....I am sure your kids will do the same for you one day....its all about family! Take care and keep yourself healthy.

Ron

Vetteman Jack

My admiration to you for doing whatever it takes to care for your parents. Will say some more prayers for you and your family.

flynbyu2

All my good thoughts and positive karma being sent your way.

bigblock427

I will pray for you and your family.

slj455

My prayers are with you and your family

Todds427

Wishing you and your family well.

Silverback51

First and formost, thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

Then something for you to think about.

Vowing to never put them in a nursing facility may not be the best for them.

Nursing homes are not what they were 30 years ago, where they were nothing more than a storage facility and the majority of the people working there could care less about them.

My mother is 93 and up until 6 months ago was living on her own in a retirement complex. She ended up in the hospital due to not taking medications, eating wrong, etc. Doctors said she needed assisted living. We found an assisted living apartment complex that is clean, and the people working there are great.

Believe me, she probably has better care there than if she lived with us. Not because we would not try, but I still work and my wife has to go about 40 miles away once or twice a week to help our her mother. There was no way we could leave my mom alone. Plus, we do have our lives to live also.

So take a look and determine if you are helping them or not. Every situation is different, but you may be surprised.

Best of luck to you.

philcon99

Good thoughts to you and your family. Hang in there.