Had and argument with the missus. To make the long story short. She stated that she is working so she can buy what she wants. I thought she hid the stuff she bought so I wouldn't know. So I confronted her with it. That's how the argument started. My point was, all I wanted her to do was tell me what she was going to buy. Her point is, not all the things she would buy she has to tell me. She also said that she knows I also work hard that's why she did not stop me from buying my C5 even though I told her I would sell it when she had her accident. And I asked her 2 times. Now I feel like she's making me feel guilty over buying the Vette and the stuff that goes along with it. I don't know what to do. I told her just to make her happy I would sell the car. What should I do. We really don't have any monetary problems, I was just trying to make my point as knowing what she buys because I do tell her before I buy things. Am I being a jerk by confronting her or do I have a point. Should I sell the Vette just to prove a point. I really love the car and I would hate to see it go especially that I only have about 7-8 months and it's paid for, but I don't want her to keep blaming about the car everytime we would have an argument. Thanks in advance.

 

lots of grey area on that one.
My wife & talk about major purchases, not the small stuff. She knows our budget, She will let me splurge on the mods and she gets her shoes
good luck

 

Same here. We discuss major purchases, minor are just done. I don't push to hard when she "smuggles" bags into the house and therefore she can't complain to much when something new shows up for the Vette! As long as it works within your budget, I think you both should give each other space. I think sometimes we forget that we are not our spouses parent and we have different interest...

Good luck - remember the saying don't sweat the petty stuff!

 

My wife's are Coach purses and any other well known purses. Nope not the really expensive ones, but those that are out of style and on sale (between $150-$300 and no these are not the knock off ones as she buys it off the makers outlet store) but still a good considerable amount. And even though my mods are also expensive, I don't buy them every month as she does plus like I said, I ask her first, if she said no. I wouldn't. Geez, I sound guilty am I?

 

It sounds to me that she is jealous of your Vette. Some wifes are not happy unless they are the total center of your life. I say keep the vette and tell her to grow up. Jimmy

 

Keep the Vette- better that she blames stuff on the car than on you!!

 

I am surprised about what people post on this forum. Why would someone want to get on a public forum and denigrate his spouse? Why would someone want the opinions of strangers about a personal or financial disagreement between him and his spouse? Perhaps a visit with his wife to a marriage counselor or his pastor is in order. I think there are just some things that should not be posted on this forum, and I also believe that others shouldn't be presumptuous and offer advice. Just my $.02.

 

I hate to get involved in this sort of stuff, but I think the Vette is the least of your worries, and it's also not the source of the issue. I would sit down and have a serious talk with her. Open communication is obviously a must in every relationship. If there is any inkling of deceit, then the relationship is going to suffer. You not trusting her purchasing decisions (even though your description of her reasoning behind getting a job is strange) may have precipitated her reaction (I'm only going off what you posted, so I could be way off-base here).

Sit down, have a talk and figure things out. Jobs shouldn't be about getting what you want. In a relationship, it should be about helping the two of you collectively...otherwise, what's the point of even being together? This is something you can't iron out in five minutes. Really sit down and have a long talk. You'll thank yourself for it later.

 

Without going to drastic measures (selling the vette) why not hold off on the mods for a few months? I just got married in August and money of course was a topic of discussion for us as well. I just stopped buying mods. No UPS shipment once a week has her feeling a little better. We both have seperate accounts as well as a joint "operating" account which we use to pay bills. I just add a little extra to the operating account every month. Now when she asks what I want for my birthday, christmas, etc. I give her a list of mods! works well for me and the Vette is still in the garage! my 2 cents.

 

I think you are in a difficult position...
I would definitley NOT sell the Vette.
Based on what your wrote it is not the problem.
I would tell her that and explain that you don't think the Vette is the cause of the problem

I think you need to try and find out two things.

1. What is driving her to ( your past together or her childhood) to say I work to buy what I want and not want to share with you what she is buying.
2. Examine why it is so important for you to know what she is buying?
If there are no money problems as you state then she must be reasonably responsible as must you with your independent and joint spending.

Perhaps it is a dominance or control issue, perhaps her mother did not work and her mother's spending was kept on a tight rein by her father and she grew up saying i'll never let the happen to me....
and now she thinks you are trying to do it to her....
Maybe she feels you criticize her or ridicule her for what she buys and just doesn't want to tell you to avoid that feeling.

I don't know and I'm not trained in these things...

My wife and I always share info about everything we buy.

Sony did research and concluded that in most couples , one member will buy things priced at $299 and below on their own and over $400
most couples need to make joint decisions. So maybe you just need to agree to some $ amount bleow which you each do your own thing, but above that $ amount you confer and agree.

Good Luck

 

Keep the Corvette. I don't see a need to get rid of it. If you do, more then likely there will be something else to blame things on.

 

I have never, and would never, denigrate my spouse to my best friends, let alone a public forum

 

 

Hell - sell the vette.............buy a new one.

 

How about...GET A F'N LIFE


Same as above


YES


NO...this post is completely pointless. This is a Corvette Forum or hadn't you noticed...not a place to whine about your crummy marital problems.

YES...and buy some diapers and a pacifer instead

This is the most rediculous post I have read on this Forum in years.

Here's a link to where you should post...I'macrybaby.com

 

Keep the car because it is almost paid for and you enjoy it.Maybe draw up a realistic budget that you both shall keep to pay the bills/investments,and what ever is left over from your side is yours to play with and vica versa.Money arguments suck and someone always has to feel bad.Find a simple plan and forget about the B.S.JER

 

Keep the Vette, but I agree that you two need to have a talk about what the real issues are. Good luck - hope this all works out.

 

As someone who has been married three times I consider myself an expert at this point on marriage, (and divorce).

1. Keep the vette.
2. Start hiding cash and other assets
3. keep track of your expenses
4. get a good lawyer

 

Oh no, don't sell the Vette! I do think that you both need counciling!

 

and Cajun 99, Thanks for you guys for your enlightening responses. What was I thinking posting this in a C5 General section, I shouldn't have brought my Marital problems into the forum. But as some other members have read, the advice I was asking about is whether or not to sell my C5 which accorindg to this forum is a C5forum. My marital problems although was the cause of me thinking about selling the car is another issue. But I have to explain why I'm thinking about selling right. Oh wait, I didn't you guys have a crystal ball and know what's going on with my life. True this is a public forum, but I consider you guys my friends/family and since I don't have a lot of friends and this is somewhat a right now decision, I didn't know where else to get an advice "hence the title." As for those who did give some very sensible advice. Thank you very much. The discussion happened last night and I talked to her again. So far everytinhg is straight, and she did mention not to sell the Vette. So I'm still feeling it out but as far as selling the Vette. That's in the past. Thanks again you guys and will remember that if I have anymore personal problems to remember not to ask our 3 shining forum members.
PS: I didn't mean to denigrate nor bash my wife. I was my mistake to assume that she was hiding things from me. After we had that discussion, I realized that I was a Jerk.