WOW!!! Tough decision
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If you've been with her for that long, you should both just sit down and talk it out. Ask her if the problem is just that she doesn't like riding in it, or if she feels that the car is absorbing too much of your interest.
If she actually gets around to the fact that she wants you to get rid of the car, you have a larger decision to deal with. Maybe she was expecting that you might make the relationship permanent, and since you've had the car, that 'expectation' seems less likely to her.
If you hadn't known her very long, or she wasn't something 'special' to you, looking for a new girlfriend might be the best option. But, that not being the case, you should just talk it out to a satisfactory conclusion.
If she actually gets around to the fact that she wants you to get rid of the car, you have a larger decision to deal with. Maybe she was expecting that you might make the relationship permanent, and since you've had the car, that 'expectation' seems less likely to her.
If you hadn't known her very long, or she wasn't something 'special' to you, looking for a new girlfriend might be the best option. But, that not being the case, you should just talk it out to a satisfactory conclusion.
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Hi A73,
I had my car before I married my wife.
She had no interest in it then and still doesn't, and that's fine with both of us.
Does your fiance' feel the car is now taking up time she thinks you should be spending with her? That could be something you need to talk about
If it's o.k. with her for you to have the car, and it's o.k. with you that she not be part of your enjoyment of the car, I think it all works.
Good Luck!
Regards,
Alan
Added: 7T1's thoughts are close to mine.
I had my car before I married my wife.
She had no interest in it then and still doesn't, and that's fine with both of us.
Does your fiance' feel the car is now taking up time she thinks you should be spending with her? That could be something you need to talk about
If it's o.k. with her for you to have the car, and it's o.k. with you that she not be part of your enjoyment of the car, I think it all works.
Good Luck!
Regards,
Alan
Added: 7T1's thoughts are close to mine.
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Tell you what my first wife (may she rest in peace) said about my Corvette.
"Well, a four wheeled mistress isn't so bad. One with two wheels would be a problem, and one with two legs will get you killed."
Gone almost twelve years and I still miss her.
"Well, a four wheeled mistress isn't so bad. One with two wheels would be a problem, and one with two legs will get you killed."
Gone almost twelve years and I still miss her.
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Burning Brakes
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My wife wasn't into my 73 when I got it 9 years ago. Now she loves riding in it. She said "it grew on her". She supports this "second hobby" (first is model railroading) fully. It does help that we live at the beach.
Don't make her a "corvette widow" by spending more time in the garage/on the road/car shows with it than with her. Try to get her involved slowly just like your first couple of dates with her. If she still does not like it, agree that it is your hobby.
Fran
Don't make her a "corvette widow" by spending more time in the garage/on the road/car shows with it than with her. Try to get her involved slowly just like your first couple of dates with her. If she still does not like it, agree that it is your hobby.
Fran
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I really can't believe you are asking this question on the Corvette Forum. In any case, its your car. If there begins to be any of this "Its either that or me", the relationship is already over. Fact is, the car is your deal. What do you need her to "like" it, do you like and approve all he hobbies?
Whatever, it should never come to this. Men are from Mars, Woman from Venus....i.e. Men are men, women are women, although it is true those lines are getting blurred as the modern generation takes over.
Whatever, it should never come to this. Men are from Mars, Woman from Venus....i.e. Men are men, women are women, although it is true those lines are getting blurred as the modern generation takes over.
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From: Houston TX
Have to know more info... is it:
1. Too much time working on the car?
2. Too much money constantly spent on the car?
Either of those are solvable, taking a longer term approach.
3. Doesn't like/feel safe in it?
No problem, you enjoy it. I have 60k miles on the motorcycle and my wonderful wife has never even sat on it. No interest, but no problem.
4. Prioritization of other wants?
Have to identify the root cause to diagnose further.
Good luck.
1. Too much time working on the car?
2. Too much money constantly spent on the car?
Either of those are solvable, taking a longer term approach.
3. Doesn't like/feel safe in it?
No problem, you enjoy it. I have 60k miles on the motorcycle and my wonderful wife has never even sat on it. No interest, but no problem.
4. Prioritization of other wants?
Have to identify the root cause to diagnose further.
Good luck.
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Who cares what she thinks? Are you married? No. Did she use her money for the car? It's not hers and you like it so there you go. Not for nothing but if you have been with her for 7 years and aren't married maybe its time to move on anyway. 
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Wow, Really?!?!?!?!?
I am 49 was in the nightclub biz didn't marry until about 8 years ago, always had a vette and other weird vehicles,
When I met my wife I had the 86 and she thought it was so cool, a car that "fit" me,
Then when she saw old pics of my c3's she knew why I wanted a 69 convertible,
I am lucky with her in so many ways, she can't wait to start driving the 69.
Back around the early 90's I had that wide body 81 a cop friend of mine killed himself to buy it off me,
He was engaged to a woman who actually said get rid of that buttfugly car ( okay not everyone likes wide bodies ) or I will not marry you, true story, he got rid of the vette in a flash, took a big loss. they divorced soon after.
Why did she find it for you???
I don't know enough about your situation but I do know "love" and compassion and "sharing" if she just "hates" the car as in doesn't like it so be it, chances are you don't like every pair of shoes or every dress she owns,
But if this is some deep spiteful control freak "me or the car" type thing well, then your whole life with her will be one where you "settle" you will yearn for things you can't have, my dad 89 is in that type of place.
I am 49 was in the nightclub biz didn't marry until about 8 years ago, always had a vette and other weird vehicles,
When I met my wife I had the 86 and she thought it was so cool, a car that "fit" me,
Then when she saw old pics of my c3's she knew why I wanted a 69 convertible,
I am lucky with her in so many ways, she can't wait to start driving the 69.
Back around the early 90's I had that wide body 81 a cop friend of mine killed himself to buy it off me,
He was engaged to a woman who actually said get rid of that buttfugly car ( okay not everyone likes wide bodies ) or I will not marry you, true story, he got rid of the vette in a flash, took a big loss. they divorced soon after.
Why did she find it for you???
I don't know enough about your situation but I do know "love" and compassion and "sharing" if she just "hates" the car as in doesn't like it so be it, chances are you don't like every pair of shoes or every dress she owns,
But if this is some deep spiteful control freak "me or the car" type thing well, then your whole life with her will be one where you "settle" you will yearn for things you can't have, my dad 89 is in that type of place.
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She doesnt have to like it. There will be plenty of things thats shes very interested in that you will not care less about. As long as you respect each other, its fine.
However, if she refuses to get in it and aggressively makes a big deal about how much she hates it, she doesnt care about your feelings at all and that would concern me a great deal. This is someone who sounds jealous about something that might take away from a moment's attention to her. Something to think about.
Sounds like someone who expects to tell you what you can do, spend money on or spend time enjoying.
However, if she refuses to get in it and aggressively makes a big deal about how much she hates it, she doesnt care about your feelings at all and that would concern me a great deal. This is someone who sounds jealous about something that might take away from a moment's attention to her. Something to think about.
Sounds like someone who expects to tell you what you can do, spend money on or spend time enjoying.
If you've been with her for that long, you should both just sit down and talk it out. Ask her if the problem is just that she doesn't like riding in it, or if she feels that the car is absorbing too much of your interest.
If she actually gets around to the fact that she wants you to get rid of the car, you have a larger decision to deal with. Maybe she was expecting that you might make the relationship permanent, and since you've had the car, that 'expectation' seems less likely to her.
If you hadn't known her very long, or she wasn't something 'special' to you, looking for a new girlfriend might be the best option. But, that not being the case, you should just talk it out to a satisfactory conclusion.
If she actually gets around to the fact that she wants you to get rid of the car, you have a larger decision to deal with. Maybe she was expecting that you might make the relationship permanent, and since you've had the car, that 'expectation' seems less likely to her.
If you hadn't known her very long, or she wasn't something 'special' to you, looking for a new girlfriend might be the best option. But, that not being the case, you should just talk it out to a satisfactory conclusion.
Both of the above posts pretty much sum it up for me. If you have a good relationship you should be able to talk it out and come to a reasonable understanding. If she either can't explain her objections, is unwilling to budge, or makes it into a "me or the car" demand, you have some real thinking to do. This has been a dream for you and, even if she doesn't get the car thing, she should be happy that you have something that makes you that happy. My wife is not a car person in the least- she wouldn't know a carb from a tailpipe. However, she knows I have a passion for performance cars, just as she does for gardening. We don't at all begrudge the enjoyment those things bring to the other. Actually, she has come to realize that some of our best times have been spent together in the toys just driving around or meeting with car enthusiast friends. It really shouldn't be hard at all to resolve your situation- if it is, you have my sympathy.
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If you get rid of the car merely because she doesn't like it and insists you getting rid of it will leave wound that will never heal. It will just fester. I have had a few Vettes and my wife rarely rode in mine. But, she knew they made me happy. But, your choice...bottom line.
Good luck.
Good luck.
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If you get rid of the car merely because she doesn't like it and insists you getting rid of it will leave wound that will never heal. It will just fester. I have had a few Vettes and my wife rarely rode in mine. But, she knew they made me happy. But, your choice...bottom line.
Good luck.
Good luck.
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