I say go for it. Buy a NEW expensive car. Let her share the depreciation with you 50/50.


Loaded ZR1 or go home.

 

Good Luck to the OP ....
But, I've been scratching my head thinking the same thing.
Why air this out in a Corvette Forum, or any Forum for that matter.
Maybe Judge Judy could help

 

SOOOO! If you're only 27 and all you have is debt why in the world would you even be thinking a NEW GS? IMMHO

 

You are my son's age and so I'll tell you what I would tell him. Firstly, infidelity can start out innocently as text messages and e-mails. It usually escalates to sneaking in and out of motels. I went through it with my ex. Never accept the line "we're just friends", it's pure BS. Get your divorce and find a nice woman you can trust. The right woman can make life so easy by being your best friend for life.

 

Smooth, having shared your path. A good lawyer is a no brainer but you MUST have source to consul with. I am known as a gentelmen's Olga; if such exists and the thoughts of what you are dealing with can break the spirit. One fella to another, find a hobby that you can do, and DO IT.

 

Sorry about your troubles. Like several others, I'd recommend talking to a good domestic attorney asap. In some states, and under some circumstances, it might not matter what kind of evidence you have on her. It would just be an equitable distribution of marital assets. A good attorney can advise you whether it's worth the money to get a private investigator involved to get the dirt.

Good luck.

 

You are lucky that this happened with no kids to be involved and really from what you say not much to divide up. Do not buy anything till the divorce is done and do not let her know if you start dating. Even if she is the one that wanted the divorce and she has someone else she still wants to think that you are suffering without her and no reason to poke the bear by appearing happy till the legal part is done. I remember my kids telling me that when my ex was getting remarried she asked them if I had said anything or if it was bothering me. When they told her that I hadn't even mentioned it and they thought I didn't care she got mad as hell, go figure. No matter what they say the one thing they all want is for you to be miserable without them.

She will try to saddle you with all the debt but do not agree to that you will regret it later. If you can work it out without lawyers you will be far better off and what you or she did and with who will not make any difference in the divorce so no reason to dwell on that side.

You already knew that there was something wrong so just get past this and take it from someone who went through it after 17 years and 3 kids it will be a huge relief once its done.

My kids were old enough to choose where they wanted to stay and they stayed with me. My biggest fear was that she would try to come back.

Every guy I know that has been through this has come out happier and in far better shape financially later than any of the wives did. Believe me I have been far happier and have come out way better than my ex has.

 

Perhaps things are different these days (I'm 43) but when I was 27 -- I had buddies too....they were dudes. We drank, played golf, watched the game, etc. NONE of us had female friends that texted/called us every day....if we/they did you can bet your *** we wanted to get in their pants. My reply to her would be ....Just friends? ..please; don't insult my intelligence. I would damn near guarantee that they are 1) already banging or 2) about to

Best of luck to you man......be cool and smart and it will all be over with soon enough.

 

This is why i will never marry.

 

Unless the Guy is Gay

 

Why in every divorce situation is it only one person's fault? I hear this all the time. The OP is 27, married 6 years, which isn't a long time, but 27 itself is very young considering he was 21 when he got married.

6 years is a flash in time where marriage is concerned and in fact the 1st 10 years in a marriage are very critical. After 5 years couples get complacent and little things slip if there is no work put into it.

A person I know had a similar experience but it turns out his wife did what she did because this guy was never home.... he was off either playing softball every night, golfing on weekend, or hanging out with his buddies and he was so blind by this all that he blamed his wife for everything when she left him. He had no clue. I finally pulled him aside and had to point out the facts to him. Once he got it, he stopped blaming his wife for everything and started really examining when and how he let the marriage slip by too.

A marriage takes two people. It's a real commitment, lots of flexibility, lots of swallowing pride, lots of compromising, loving, and believe it or it's a true friendship. When a marriage falls apart, there are always deeper reasons than the folks let on which is why I'll stick by my response earlier that this stuff should stay off forums. Why air the dirty laundry?

The OP is getting a divorce, again sorry to hear that, but I'm having a hard time swallowing that all this is 100% the wife's fault. OP said they have a lot of debt, this is huge stress for a marriage and the number one cause of issues in a marriage. A lot of marriages crumble from this.

I feel for you OP but my best advice would be look through those 6 years and figure out where the connection you two had crumbled. Use that as a learning tool for future relationships. Marriage is two sided, it's very rarely one person solely to blame. At 21 marriage probably seemed cool, but as years tick by, if the marriage doesn't grow and strengthen it will die out.

God Bless, here's hoping you get through this quickly and you can grow and learn from this. There are better things out there for you.

 

Dude - I'm sorry to hear of your troubles and wish you all the best. After I bought my Vette, I caught my wife in an affair too. But the car was registered in my name and I got the car. Each state has different laws, so be sure to get legal advice from a lawyer that knows CO law. You need to be careful. Freeze all the credit cards and watch out for her hiding money (learned that one personally).

 

That's a crock. Using a forum string about divorce not knowing the facts and then saying this is why you'll never get married is plain jiberish.

If you're not willing to put in the time to work towards growing and strengthen any relationship than I agree, don't get married.

It's not a cake walk and it's not for everyone, but don't justify a forum string as the reason for not getting married.

I'm guessing your in your twenties too?

 

This thread is certainly entertaining. My 2 cents:

1) Keep your business off the internet.. for both personal & legal reasons.
2) Definitely dont buy a new expensive car if youre going thru (or expect) to go thru a divorce.
3) Whether she is cheating or not doesnt matter.. that the trust is gone is the key. No trust = no marriage. Either figure a way to restore it, or get out as soon as possible. Once trust has been lost, it NEVER gets better.

 

I definitely wouldn't make any big financial purchases right now. Is her job comparable to your job (pay wise). She might con a judge into letting her have the same style of living at your expense.

 

Herein lies the problem.. After several years being married, generally the men become less complimentary and a perceived taking things for granted envelops a womans thoughts.

Meant as humor, here is a situation...



WIFE'S DIARY:

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a nice restaurant for dinner. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, 'Nothing.' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.' When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep - I cried. I don't know what to do. I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.



HUSBAND'S DIARY:

Boat won't start, can't figure it out.



.The new young stud in the picture is lavishing her with beautiful talk, actions and behavior (all a game just to get what he wants)

So there you have it!

 

Are you kidding? Brother you are about to get a new ZR1!!! Once you get her out of your life you will have twice as much money as you use to even if you have to give her half your assets. My friend is one of the best divorce lawyers in CO so let me know if you need the number. First thing he will tell you is to not try and hide anything!!!! They will find it and the judge will nail you to the wall for it. If you have not paid your taxes yet I would suggest overpaying them big time.


give this guy a call, if he cant help he will point you in the right direction.
MIKE CARPENTER
(719) 444-0687

 

How does that work?

If they are both working and both contributing to the household expenses (same as room mates) how does he have more when he now has to pay 100% (or get another room mate)?

 

Cause now he can find a rich cougar!

 

Still no excuse for the wife to be off banging somebody else. Women just use that crap as an excuse to cover up their mistakes. If that is an issue then the wife needs to talk to the husband and work it out. If nothing changes then get a divorce, don't go off banging half the town.