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Le Mans Master
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St. Jude Donor '06
What a thread. It's been a really bad week for me too. I know all to well how you feel. I have known my Jamie for 20 years but we were married to different people. In fact, she and my wife used to work together for a while. Jamie got divorced a year later than I did. We both looked at each other and said "well, what are we gonna do now". We hung out together for quite a while until she met someone and married him. Her new husband (a cop) didn't like me because I knew Jamie better than he did. She was forbidden to see me. To make a long story short. Six years later, Jamie left her new husband and came to live with me. She moved all her stuff into my apartment and has lived with me happily for seven months now. We had a blast. She enjoyed going on our Corvette runs. We went to Florida and I bought a house there hoping we both were to start a new life there. Life was easy because we already had 20 years of history of knowing each other.
Three weeks ago she went to visit her family who live in Buffalo. Jamie and her husband own a house in Buffalo and it is up for sale since they are dissolving their marriage. Her husband drove up to Buffalo a few days later so that they could move things out of their house and decide who gets what.
While Jamie was visiting Buffalo, She would call me at least 3 times a day. The calls suddenly stopped last Sunday. I kept calling and left voice mail. Then, this past Friday (my birthday), She called me to tell me that she won't be coming back. She is gonna reconcile with her husband. My heart dropped to my knees. Debbie, Jamie is reaching in the refrigerator hoping the milk will smell better.
I told her that next weekend would be an excellent time to get all her belongings out of my apartment. I'm not gonna be her fool anymore. Anyone wanna come over and keep me company next week while she moves her stuff out and keep me from doing something stupid?
This one birthday I'll never forget.
Three weeks ago she went to visit her family who live in Buffalo. Jamie and her husband own a house in Buffalo and it is up for sale since they are dissolving their marriage. Her husband drove up to Buffalo a few days later so that they could move things out of their house and decide who gets what.
While Jamie was visiting Buffalo, She would call me at least 3 times a day. The calls suddenly stopped last Sunday. I kept calling and left voice mail. Then, this past Friday (my birthday), She called me to tell me that she won't be coming back. She is gonna reconcile with her husband. My heart dropped to my knees. Debbie, Jamie is reaching in the refrigerator hoping the milk will smell better.
I told her that next weekend would be an excellent time to get all her belongings out of my apartment. I'm not gonna be her fool anymore. Anyone wanna come over and keep me company next week while she moves her stuff out and keep me from doing something stupid?
This one birthday I'll never forget.
I'm sure it's hard to hear this now, but I think she probably did you a favor. It could have been worse. It could have happened futher down the road when your lives were more intertwined.
I like the "sniffing the milk" analogy. I agree that she is probaby doing that now. Just make sure you don't make the same mistake she is making after she finds out that the carton she has her nose stuck in still stinks.
TryNkeepUp: I agree with your insightful post. There is just one thing that I want to comment on.
I agree with you that many men don't cheat, but trust me on this one. Of those that do, it's mostly just a physical thing. It doesn't make it right, but it's true. Once the deed is done they can move on as if nothing ever happened; that is of course unless they get themselves addicted to the strange.
Last edited by JVM225; Mar 8, 2009 at 07:51 PM.
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St. Jude Donor '08-'09-'10-'11-'12
That sucks!
I'm sure it's hard to hear this now, but I think she probably did you a favor. It could have been worse. It could have happened futher down the road when your lives were more intertwined.
I like the "sniffing the milk" analogy. I agree that she is probaby doing that now. Just make sure you don't make the same mistake she is making after she finds out that the carton she has her nose stuck in still stinks.
TryNkeepUp: I agree with your insightful post. There is just one thing that I want to comment on.
I agree with you that many men don't cheat, but trust me on this one. Of those that do, it's mostly just a physical thing. It doesn't make it right, but it's true. Once the deed is done they can move on as if nothing ever happened; that is of course unless they get themselves addicted to the strange.
I'm sure it's hard to hear this now, but I think she probably did you a favor. It could have been worse. It could have happened futher down the road when your lives were more intertwined.
I like the "sniffing the milk" analogy. I agree that she is probaby doing that now. Just make sure you don't make the same mistake she is making after she finds out that the carton she has her nose stuck in still stinks.
TryNkeepUp: I agree with your insightful post. There is just one thing that I want to comment on.
I agree with you that many men don't cheat, but trust me on this one. Of those that do, it's mostly just a physical thing. It doesn't make it right, but it's true. Once the deed is done they can move on as if nothing ever happened; that is of course unless they get themselves addicted to the strange.
Oh and glad you like the milk analogy - I came up with that all by myself
Drifting
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That sucks!
I'm sure it's hard to hear this now, but I think she probably did you a favor. It could have been worse. It could have happened futher down the road when your lives were more intertwined.
I like the "sniffing the milk" analogy. I agree that she is probaby doing that now. Just make sure you don't make the same mistake she is making after she finds out that the carton she has her nose stuck in still stinks.
I'm sure it's hard to hear this now, but I think she probably did you a favor. It could have been worse. It could have happened futher down the road when your lives were more intertwined.
I like the "sniffing the milk" analogy. I agree that she is probaby doing that now. Just make sure you don't make the same mistake she is making after she finds out that the carton she has her nose stuck in still stinks.
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From: *MIDDLETOWN NY* "I thought I was an OLD-GUY, till I met Charlie"
What a thread. It's been a really bad week for me too. I know all to well how you feel. I have known my Jamie for 20 years but we were married to different people. In fact, she and my wife used to work together for a while. Jamie got divorced a year later than I did. We both looked at each other and said "well, what are we gonna do now". We hung out together for quite a while until she met someone and married him. Her new husband (a cop) didn't like me because I knew Jamie better than he did. She was forbidden to see me. To make a long story short. Six years later, Jamie left her new husband and came to live with me. She moved all her stuff into my apartment and has lived with me happily for seven months now. We had a blast. She enjoyed going on our Corvette runs. We went to Florida and I bought a house there hoping we both were to start a new life there. Life was easy because we already had 20 years of history of knowing each other.
Three weeks ago she went to visit her family who live in Buffalo. Jamie and her husband own a house in Buffalo and it is up for sale since they are dissolving their marriage. Her husband drove up to Buffalo a few days later so that they could move things out of their house and decide who gets what.
While Jamie was visiting Buffalo, She would call me at least 3 times a day. The calls suddenly stopped last Sunday. I kept calling and left voice mail. Then, this past Friday (my birthday), She called me to tell me that she won't be coming back. She is gonna reconcile with her husband. My heart dropped to my knees. Debbie, Jamie is reaching in the refrigerator hoping the milk will smell better.
I told her that next weekend would be an excellent time to get all her belongings out of my apartment. I'm not gonna be her fool anymore. Anyone wanna come over and keep me company next week while she moves her stuff out and keep me from doing something stupid?
This one birthday I'll never forget.
Three weeks ago she went to visit her family who live in Buffalo. Jamie and her husband own a house in Buffalo and it is up for sale since they are dissolving their marriage. Her husband drove up to Buffalo a few days later so that they could move things out of their house and decide who gets what.
While Jamie was visiting Buffalo, She would call me at least 3 times a day. The calls suddenly stopped last Sunday. I kept calling and left voice mail. Then, this past Friday (my birthday), She called me to tell me that she won't be coming back. She is gonna reconcile with her husband. My heart dropped to my knees. Debbie, Jamie is reaching in the refrigerator hoping the milk will smell better.
I told her that next weekend would be an excellent time to get all her belongings out of my apartment. I'm not gonna be her fool anymore. Anyone wanna come over and keep me company next week while she moves her stuff out and keep me from doing something stupid?
This one birthday I'll never forget.
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St. Jude Donor '08-'09-'10-'11-'12
Debbi. Aside from being my favorite redhead, you've always been there for me. Thank you. I will keep you posted on any new developments this week.
You're right JVM I should be happy it ended now and not later. I also took Debbi's words about smelling the milk and text that to Jamie. No reply yet.
You're right JVM I should be happy it ended now and not later. I also took Debbi's words about smelling the milk and text that to Jamie. No reply yet.
Oh and Danny.......it's strawberry blonde
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St. Jude Donor '08-'09-'10-'11-'12
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St. Jude Donor '08
What a thread. It's been a really bad week for me too. I know all to well how you feel. I have known my Jamie for 20 years but we were married to different people. In fact, she and my wife used to work together for a while. Jamie got divorced a year later than I did. We both looked at each other and said "well, what are we gonna do now". We hung out together for quite a while until she met someone and married him. Her new husband (a cop) didn't like me because I knew Jamie better than he did. She was forbidden to see me. To make a long story short. Six years later, Jamie left her new husband and came to live with me. She moved all her stuff into my apartment and has lived with me happily for seven months now. We had a blast. She enjoyed going on our Corvette runs. We went to Florida and I bought a house there hoping we both were to start a new life there. Life was easy because we already had 20 years of history of knowing each other.
Three weeks ago she went to visit her family who live in Buffalo. Jamie and her husband own a house in Buffalo and it is up for sale since they are dissolving their marriage. Her husband drove up to Buffalo a few days later so that they could move things out of their house and decide who gets what.
While Jamie was visiting Buffalo, She would call me at least 3 times a day. The calls suddenly stopped last Sunday. I kept calling and left voice mail. Then, this past Friday (my birthday), She called me to tell me that she won't be coming back. She is gonna reconcile with her husband. My heart dropped to my knees. Debbie, Jamie is reaching in the refrigerator hoping the milk will smell better.
I told her that next weekend would be an excellent time to get all her belongings out of my apartment. I'm not gonna be her fool anymore. Anyone wanna come over and keep me company next week while she moves her stuff out and keep me from doing something stupid?
This one birthday I'll never forget.
Three weeks ago she went to visit her family who live in Buffalo. Jamie and her husband own a house in Buffalo and it is up for sale since they are dissolving their marriage. Her husband drove up to Buffalo a few days later so that they could move things out of their house and decide who gets what.
While Jamie was visiting Buffalo, She would call me at least 3 times a day. The calls suddenly stopped last Sunday. I kept calling and left voice mail. Then, this past Friday (my birthday), She called me to tell me that she won't be coming back. She is gonna reconcile with her husband. My heart dropped to my knees. Debbie, Jamie is reaching in the refrigerator hoping the milk will smell better.
I told her that next weekend would be an excellent time to get all her belongings out of my apartment. I'm not gonna be her fool anymore. Anyone wanna come over and keep me company next week while she moves her stuff out and keep me from doing something stupid?
This one birthday I'll never forget.
Dan I am a firm believer in what is meant to be will be.. and I wont go into your private business in an open thread but as much as this hurts you it is for the best. You are waaaaaay too good of a person for this.. or to have someone around you who is only going to bring you down. All I will say is the day of Pryia's shower, was the clencher for me. You deserve better, in heart, in morals, and in class. Im sorry that you had to go through the pain to get to this point but again, everything happens for a reason!
If it matters I still love you
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